The 5 Biggest Mistakes We Make at the Beginning of a Relationship

We could avoid so much heartache, hurt and sadness if we paid more attention to the start of a relationship. Good beginnings make good endings. 

1. We don't ask enough questions. We ask more questions when we are buying shoes. We feel we lose the romance if we ask too many questions about the person.  We feel falling in love is romantic but interviewing is not.  It is too easy to get caught up in the fantasy of your potential lover. 

2. We ignore the warning signs. Sane love is loving with your heart and your mind. Look back on past relationships that soured. Were there yellow lights or stops signs you simply glossed over? 

3. We compromise early in the relationship. Some compromise is not wrong. But when we compromise our values, morals and beliefs we are asking for future trouble. When you try to edit your values to keep the person or to just get along you lose a sense of self. This can create a false sense of security in the relationship. An uneasy Treaty. 

4. We are seduced by materialism and appearance. We judge on looks and back account's the chances of a wrong relationship greatly increase. When we place exaggerated values on money, prestige, looks and even power we become blind to who that person really is.

5. We put commitment before compatibility.  We make and instant commitment and we stay trapped in a relationship for months , maybe years! Some people feel pressured because their" biological clock" is running out or they were abandoned as a child or they feel pressure from  family and friends. 

REMEMBER: "It is better to have loved and lost than to be stuck with a real loser the rest of your entire miserable existence!"

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To Flirt of not to Flirt

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